“But I want it now!” – Combatting That Sense of Urgency |Day 4

I was listening to a podcast by Tony Robbins last night (if that Saturday night says anything about me), and he delivered a message that struck a chord with me.

It’s something we’ve all heard: things take time.

“All of our success and failure overnight comes from little decisions, little actions, little moments.

Failure isn’t an overnight event. It’s failure to make the phone call, failure to say I love you, failure to take care of your body… failure to invest some time in yourself so you keep growing and expanding, and not just reacting to the world that’s constantly demanding your attention.”

Accomplishing your goals comes down to “having a plan and measuring your progress.”

I know what you’re thinking. I know what I’m thinking…

“But I want it NOW!” 

I want the results NOW. I want the fast race times NOW. I want the dream job NOW. I want the house, the happily-ever-after future, the good life, NOW.

Don’t we all?

Especially those of us who are still figuring it out — millennials graduating from college, with so much up in the air. Many of us have no idea where we’ll be living next year, what we’ll be doing, who we’ll be dating, where we’ll be working, who our closest friends will be, or how we’ll be getting there.

On some level, this is EFFING EXCITING!!!, but on others, it’s completely unsettling.

The discomfort of not knowing is too much, causing us worry for the future. Part of us craves certainty, but another part thrives on not knowing what is yet to come.

I struggle with this constantly, but simply being aware and acknowledging my anxieties have helped tremendously. I’m learning to be okay with not knowing. I’m practicing process-oriented goals. I’m taking daily actions to move me closer to my long-term goals.

Think of what you want, a year, 5 years, 10 years from now. In one sentence, write it down. What will matter to you most? Family? Work? Money? Status? Health? Happiness? At the root of it all, consider the one thing that matters most. WHY do you want what you want?

According to Tony Robbins, success comes from taking the time for what matters most: “your body, your mind, your spirit, your emotion.”

What’s in common with each of these? We all have them. At this very moment.

Back to what you really want – don’t you have that, now? Can’t we find a way to be happy with it all, now? The thing is, if we aren’t happy with our current circumstances, odds are we will not be happy with them later.

How can we combat this sense of urgency, of wanting everything now? Wanting results NOW. Wanting our dream job NOW. Wanting next month, next year, figured out NOW.

Call it the art of patience, but famous philosopher Lao Tzu once said:

“If you are depressed you are living in the past.

If you are anxious you are living in the future.

If you are at peace you are living in the present.”

So what can we do?

Find a way to enjoy the process – the every day things. The end result will come.

Robbins states that in order to do so, “You have to set yourself up with a process that allows you to consistently grow, consistently enjoy your life and consistently produce the results that you’re after.”

The real winner isn’t the one who achieves their results, but the one who finds a way to love every moment of the journey.

One of my fitness biz mentors, Jill Coleman puts it eloquently: “The end does not justify the means. The means *are* the end.”

To listen to the podcast (and get a strong dose of inspiration in under 10 minutes), go to the Podcasts app, Search for Tony Robbins and download the episode, “Creating an Extraordinary Life.”

Recommended Reads:

4 Ways to Master the Unsexy Art of Patience and Good Gosh, Stop Expecting Everything Right this Second! via JillFit

10 Tips to Start Living in the Present via Becoming Minimalist