Becoming who you are: Bridging the gap between who you are and who you want to become.
For this exercise, take a pencil out and 3 blank sheets of paper. Write each of the following questions at the top of a sheet and allow yourself undistracted time to answer each of them as thoroughly as you can.
1. Who are you?
2. Who do you want to be?
3. What is the difference? In other words, what bridges the gap between the two?
We often describe who we are and who we will be, or hope to be, as separate people or completely unrelated entities. “One day I will be ______” or “I’ll become ______ eventually.” In supporting the path to self-awareness, it’s important to question whether we’re aligning with the person we desire to become and to realize why or why not we’re falling in line with that individual. Despite the division between these two concepts of oneself, who we are today, at this very moment, and the person we hope to be 6 months, a year, 10 years, 20 years from now, is the same person. How much we change that person is up to us, but we cannot escape from ourselves. The person we are today is the person we will be in 10, 20, 30 years. The person we were born as is the person we will leave this world as. More developed of course, changed over time, but always the same being.
Back to reality: Being who we want to be is the ultimate goal. We can either do that by (1) working to become the person we want to be or (2) making the person that we want to be the person that we are. Because sometimes, our ideal of who we want to be isn’t who we should be or who we are truly destined to be. But who should we be? Who are we destined to be? Those questions are up to you to answer. And you can only answer them by questioning who you are today.
These questions, along with a little more time spent on self-awareness, can really give you insight into who you are versus who you want to be. And the only way to do that is to bridge the gap between the two.
The key take-home points:
Become who you are by being who you are.
Dreaming, Hoping, Wishing < Doing, Acting, Being.
The only gap between who you are and who you want to be is YOU.
I hope I’ve enlightened you. As much as I am still figuring out these things myself, especially in the fitness & nutrition spectrum, these are pressing questions that overarch every theme in life – feel like a Buddha sometimes (Fitness Buddha, anyone?) Just thought I’d throw the name out there – feel free to steal it.
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