The Hidden Side of Resistance


What if that thing you’ve been avoiding is the very most thing you need to do most?

Truth: It probably is.

The very thing you avoid most is often the thing you need to do most (ever heard of procrastination?).

  • Getting over to the gym and kicking your butt into gear?
  • Studying for the upcoming exam or writing that daunting research paper?
  • Telling someone how you really feel?
  • Addressing your emotional eating and getting help to face the deeper reasons below the surface?
  • Booking those flight plans to that place you’ve been dreaming of?
  • Facing up to that big decision or vision lingering in the back of your mind?

Let’s be honest, we’ve all got our own source of it: resistance. 

I do it myself.

Changing your major? Giving a speech? Transferring colleges? Showing up somewhere alone? Leaving a long-time relationship? Traveling to a foreign country? Taking a gutsy lead in a race? Pressing the purchase button on a big personal development or career pivotal purchase?

All of it – I’ve been there. It’s tough. It’s uncomfortable. It’s scary. But it’s entirely rewarding, life changing, transformational stuff. It’s where the magic happens.

For me right now, it’s this blog – more importantly, this business. When I look at the big picture, my vision, it’s what matters most – it’s what I want to be doing most – inspiring others, churning out posts, online workout programs, engaging videos and quality content. Yet I busy myself with mind-numbing tasks, day in and day out, forgoing what’s really important. Sitting down to write, record, whatever, can be one of the most daunting tasks out there. And so it goes… (as I write this while resisting a vaccination paper)…

It could be anything. Heck, even sleep is something we resist. Turning off the iPhone and calling it quits for the night? Talk about tough in our busy-driven society. Recovery has become a huge source of resistance for most of us.

In his book, The War of Art (The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles), Steven Pressfield quotes, “The more important a call or action is to our soul’s revolution, the more Resistance we will feel toward pursuing it.”

Although Pressfield speaks from a place of creative battles, we face these inner battles each day, regardless of our resistance.

We form excuses for all of these things, rationalizing why we should wait, why we’re too busy, why we just don’t have the time/money/resources/qualifications right now. No really – tell me more.

We avoid uncomfortable. We shy away from uncertainty. We fear the unknown.

But when we own up and just do the damn thing, boy does it feel good.

So back to that thing you’ve been avoiding – what is it?

Get started. Your soul’s evolution is depending on it.

And while you’re at it (or heck, if this blog post isn’t enough to convince you), get the book: