How to Keep Going When you Feel Like Stopping | Day 8


Bueller…? Anyone reading this one? To be totally honest, sometimes it feels like I’m blogging to a brick wall. I’m 8 days into this 30 Day Blog Blitz, and while it’s teaching me a lot about myself, improving my writing habits and abilities, I’m not quite sure what it’s doing for my audience. Yet. But like any undertaking in its early stages – it’s a process.

Surely there’s a message you have inside, something you want to accomplish in your life, people you want to impact. Have you shared your gift with the world? Especially in the early stages, it’s hard to tell who you’ll impact or wonder IF you have any impact at all. Even in our personal lives – embarking on a big trip, signing up to work with a personal trainer, starting a job, testing out a new relationship – we are left wondering if it will work, how long it will last, and if/when you’ll be onto another one.

It happens to all of us – trainers, too. This summer I worked as a coach at a weight loss camp for 30+ young adults. After a week or two, I started to worry that I wasn’t having enough of an impact, if any at all. Nothing I said or did seemed to get through. On top of that, the campers were having doubts about the entire process, whether or not it was worth it, many not yet seeing the results they wanted.

According to a study on BodyBuilding.com, “73% of people who set fitness goals as resolutions give them up.”

Why? Because the effort sets in. The reward is reduced. Time and energy strike a high point.

Seth Godin calls this THE DIP – the point at which things get tough; the point at which the reward is out of sight; the point at which you start to wonder, is it even worth it?

In his book, The Dip: A Little Book That Teaches You When to Quit (and When to Stick), Seth Godin remarks, “Extraordinary benefits accrue to the tiny minority of people who are able to push just a tiny bit longer than most.”

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Most people quit when they’re just on the verge of success.

Of course, there are times when it’s a good idea to quit — if the approach clearly isn’t working and there is a better path to pursue — but more often than not, we quit before we’ve had a chance to see where the path will lead us. We’ve quit before we have a chance to reap the rewards. We quit because we lack grit.

According to James Clear, “Research from the University of Pennsylvania has shown that grit is the characteristic linked most closely to success.”

Grit is our ability to push through when things get tough – to put the hours and energy in, even when you’ve lost sight of the rewards. Getting through the dip takes grit.

Where in your life have you faced “the dip?” Are you going through it now?

Know this: following through on your plan will lead you to where you want to be. The people who most need your message will find it. The process will pan out. Remind yourself why. Know that success is on its way. Keep pressing on.

Recommended Reads:

What I Do When I Feel Like Giving Up – James Clear – blog post

The Dip: A Little Book That Teaches You When to Quit (and When to Stick) – book

Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance – book